Learn to do more for yourself
I would never have imagined that I would be sitting in Paris, drinking a glass of Rosé, alone…by choice. Choosing to take that leap of faith and go on holiday on my own. It was not an easy decision but it also wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. After all I was going to Paris! I have lived my life so long feeling controlled by anxiety, that I began feeling like I was missing out on things. So when the opportunity came along to step out of my comfort zone. I took it. How could I take on new challenges and discover new things about myself if I stuck to what I already know.
After all, and possibly quite unfortunate, we all get used to being in a routine. We have fast become known as a nation that puts work before anything else. Working long hours and working even when work finishes, stressed to meet deadlines has long become the norm for us all. So stepping away can sometimes seem like a crazy thing to do. I’ve certainly fallen into this trap. Feeling the pressure of earning a living and having a job has probably the head space to push myself. Not feeling like there was time and space in my life to have the type of career I wanted.
Don’t Wait Around
And I suppose some of these feelings have come about being single. I have struggled to feel completely happy as an individual. There are time when you can often feel alone. I’m not an overly confident person either, which doesn’t help. Over the year I have been made to feel as though it is not ‘normal’ to eat alone in a restaurant, it is not ‘normal’ to go travelling alone, and it is not ‘normal’ to stay single as long as I have. But because I am alone, does that mean I should halt my life until I find a companion?
No! This just gives you an opportunity to challenge the norm. To take that Leap of Faith and do the things you have always wanted to do without worrying about the consequences.
So why does this involve Paris you may ask? Because this year I made my first major leap of faith in myself. I decided to travel solo to Paris for a couple of days. I have suffered from anxiety for many years. So this was one of the things to feed my drive to do something like this. To fight back! I found myself wanting more, I was missing out on things just because the opportunity didn’t arise to go with someone else. But also because I couldn’t have my anxiety control my life anymore. I needed to believe I could do things again.
Have Some Faith in Yourself
I know for a lot of people this maybe easier said than done. And it has taken me a while to get into the headspace to successfully complete this task. If you can imagine all the things you want to do with your life, and just ask yourself. “What’s holding me back?” If your answer is ‘nothing,’ then why are you still sitting here? But if you have a different answer to that. Then identify what it is that is holding you back, and work on plan to achieve your goal. After my own experience, I feel a new wave of positivity and feel capable of pushing myself more.
Sure my first experience was completely nerve wracking. But I still enjoyed every minute and would do it again. No matter what your leap of faith turns out to be, wether it is a career change, deciding to go to university, trying a long distance relationship or something small like me, and going travelling alone. Even if unfortunately it doesn’t work out, you will no doubt learn something from it. I definitely learned a lot. For one, I learnt that I can get myself around an airport and strange city on my own.
Obviously you shouldn’t push yourself to do something you are not ready for. But if an opportunity stands in front of you, one that you would usually be quick to turn away from. Question yourself, think about what you could learn from saying yes. You never know it may end up being the best thing you have ever done!
Have you ever taken a leap of faith, if so let me know if it was the best thing you’ve done?
I hope you enjoyed this post and I will see you next week!